Maybe it’s because I’m living in the city now. Maybe it’s because my friends see that I’m not in university anymore and go ‘Oh, she has extra time and money now.’ Maybe it’s because of my age, or maybe it’s
because I am a woman. I don’t know. What I do know is that I have been invited to a lot of parties lately.
Six this week, in fact. Arbonne, Mary Kay, PartyLite, Lia Sophia, Mom’s Pantry, Stella Ertois.
Now, being a commerce student, and a marketing major especially, my immediate thought as soon as I am invited to yet another party, is pyramid scheme!! Run away! (Okay. Maybe my reaction isn’t quite that extreme, but I do feel sorry for the people who get sucked into thinking that they are actually getting what they are putting in).
I am not going to go into details of why pyramid schemes are evil, or how unless ‘consultants’ are willing to make it their full-time job, they will spend around half the money they make on upkeep (after all, you need to buy the new magazines, the new product to show, and there is a monthly fee if you want a website). You can read about most of that in the link I provided.
What I am trying to get at is that many of my friends are not only agreeing to host parties, a few of them have become consultants. And being the person I am, I then feel obligated to attend their parties to help them raise money, buy product, and go to any conventions I am invited to. (After all, if I don’t who will right?) This was okay when there was just one here or there, but like I said, I have been invited to six parties this week. I don’t have that kind of money.
So, after all this gracious help and money spending, I finally started to say no. And out of all the parties this week, I only went to one.
I have to admit, it felt good. The first parties I veto’d were those of my co-workers. I don’t normally spend time with them outside of work, so I felt less of an obligation to attend their parties. (It also helped that they were hosts and not consultants.) That eliminated the Arbonne, the Stella Ertois, Lia Sophia and the Mom’s Pantry. Okay, two left. Which of these two are hosting and which are consultants? Both are consultants. Crap. Which is a closer friend? They are both close friends. Which night do I have less going on? PartyLite. Done. Sorry, Mary Kay.
I will continue to attend parties and support my friends when I can, but I will not break the bank doing it, and
I will not attend more parties than I have time for.
What I’ve Learned Today: March 24th, 2011:
It doesn’t hurt to stick your neck out there. Most people aren’t willing to take a bite at it.